Well, I've seen countless news articles and posts about very young girls who are forcibly 'married' to men several times their age, but we hear almost nothing about when this happens to boys.
It's almost never talked about, but since there is a post about child brides on the front page, lets have this conversation. Painful as it may be.
That image is from one of the tiny number of news articles that actually talk about this. And yes, it makes it look like the boy kidnapped her and is holding her for ransom. That's part of the problem here.
Even when we try to show boys as victims we end up making them look strong and in control. We have a solid mental block when it comes to male weakness, and that makes it so much harder to have this conversation. As a rule, we tend to save up all of our empathy for the defenceless, but we are also wired not to see young boys as defenceless. Even when that boy has been forced into a sexual relationship against his will.
This is the main reason there is little research into their situation . We just don't know much about it because most of what we know was learnt by accident while studying child brides. Finding even a single 'wedding' picture of a child groom is harder than it sounds. The silence is almost absolute, and by remaining silent we become complicit in crimes against children.
Wow. Look at all these happy faces. You'd think this was a funeral. Oh wait. It basically is.
Put yourself in his place.
You are not going to finish school. You are not going to get an education. You are going to go out and work the nastiest jobs society has to offer because your parents decided that its high time you started making kids and supporting your 'wife' like a 'proper man'. Only you're not a man. You're a child.
Most boys forced into marriage have to drop out of school and get a low paid job. They end up stuck in these jobs for the rest of their lives.
And this is only the tip of the iceberg. The hidden abuse against boys is worlds worse than you can even imagine. If you can stomach it, I will tell you more than you ever wanted to know (the ritualistic rape of boys in Afghanistan being just one example). The silence on all of these things is almost absolute, and by remaining silent we become complicit in crimes against children.
In any case, thank you for reading. Here are my citations:
And here is the obligatory cat tax to make up for the emotional trauma:
Uh oh.... I don't think that was supposed to happen. Um.... anyone know a good cat tax lawyer...?
*Edit* Thanks for upvoting guys!